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These are words commonly uttered by Lionel Harmer to his family and friends, who all miss him sorely.
Mr Harmer, 59, died of multiple injuries sustained in a mountain bike accident on April 7 while riding at Livingston National Park with friends.
Lionel was a loving and dedicated husband, father and grandfather, he is survived by his wife Carole, his children Kristan, Justin and Rachel, their partners, Brett, Belinda, Kurt and his three grandchildren Olivia, Emma and Grace.
A memorial service in celebration of Lionel's life was conducted by Allan Harris McDonald and held at The Range on April 16, with more than 900 people in attendance.
Mr Harmer was a successful businessman, plumber and builder. He was also well known for his sporting contributions within the Wagga community.
Mr Harmer's daughter, Kristan Somerville, said her father employed many, trained countless apprentices and was more than willing to share his knowledge and resources in assisting the next generation of plumbers and tradesmen.
"It was not all about making money though, he has done a lot of work over the years for so many at no charge and never expecting anything in return," she said.
"If someone needed a hand, he was always the first to offer to help."
Ms Somerville said her dad was an inspiration, he lived big and large and he spoke true to his heart.
Lionel's son Justin Harmer said he couldn't have asked for a more supportive father, he was always there when we needed him.
"I learnt a lot from dad but two things I never want to forget is that being afraid of doing something because you might fail is not a reason not to do it, and secondly there is no point doing things halfway or waiting around for the perfect time - just make up your mind, commit to it and go for it," he said.
"That is how Dad lived".
Malcolm Hunter, one of Mr Harmer's oldest friends, said it was too hard to summarise in words the man, the father, the husband, the mate and the competitor that his great friend was.
"Over the course of many dinners we shared together someone would always ask 'What are you thankful for today' and we would take turns in responding and when it was Lionel's turn he would always say 'I am thankful to be having dinner with great friends'," he said.
"This was Lionel, he always bought fun, love and friendship to the table.
"Lionel and I shared a lot of time on the much time on the ocean always spotting seeing Dolphins.
Lionel and Dolphins have a lot in common, they love the water, they love to show off, they take risks, they work as a team, they look after their family, at times they seek solitude and most of all everyone loves dolphins, likewise everyone loved Lionel for his openness, honesty and his political incorrectness".
Mr Harmer's daughter, Rachel Harmer, said her dad's legacy is his selflessness in doing things for others without expectation of anything in return.
"Now we must all be a little bit of Lionel," she said.
"Take time from your day and give your kindness and love to anyone who you think needs it. This is how dad loved us all."
Andrew McLeod and Allan Dejong spoke as good friends of Mr Harmer.
"The saying 'actions speak louder than words' certainly sums up Lionel," Mr McLeod said. "He was a great man, great husband, father, friend, plumber, builder, developer, triathlete, cyclist and coach.
"He is the most generous and selfless person I know, always putting others first, giving people time and being there when you need him.
"He always wanted the best for everyone and we are all better for having had Lionel in our lives. I challenge all of us to live his legacy and give to others".
Mr Dejong said his friend lived his life to the fullest.
"When he laughed he threw his head back and really laughed, when he was angry you knew," he said.
"When he loved it was for life, which is why he had such a strong marriage, a secure loving family and so many friends. He was an amazing athlete and was fiercely competitive.
"Competitive yes, but always fair, modest, keen to help, teach and encourage fellow athletes. That was Lionel's way."
Michael Dunn and Garry Skeers spoke of their friend and on behalf of the many Audax riders, the Australian long-distance riders club, who knew Mr Harmer for more than 15 years.
"'Yep' and 'Nuh' were typical honest responses from Lionel, when asked a question," Mr Dunn said.
"However, there was always much more to Lionel than those short responses.
"In some ways getting to know Lionel was like peeling away the layers of an onion - once you dispensed with the dry outer layers you could enjoy the pleasant remainder, remembering of course that sometimes you may be made to 'cry' along the way."
Mr Dunn said Mr Harmer was one of the people whose influence saw the Audax rides change from being an individual challenge to one of a team or group activity.
"Lionel had coached us to undertake the often-difficult long-distance riding safely and responsibly while having fun along the way," he said.
"Above all, Lionel reinforced that the rides were always best done as part of a team and to all work as part of that team."
Carl Henman spoke as a friend and on behalf of the cycling community.
"Lionel was a helper, a joker, a mentor, a colleague but mostly he was a friend," he said. "A generous, genuine friend with a heart of gold and a social network Kim Kardashian would be proud of."
Mr Henman said Lionel was generous in so many ways, and despite his love for his family he always seemed time for others.
One of Mr Harmer's swimming students, Billy Nicholson, posted on social media mourning the loss.
"I only knew you for three years, but it felt like a lifetime," he wrote. "You were a mate, a mentor, a second father and of course 'super coach'."
Ms Somerville said that the words spoken about Mr Harmer were a testament to the man that her Dad was and hopes that his legacy encourages others to help others and be kind.