I’m getting married in a little over five months. I have a huge problem.

My fiance’s best friend got a little too close for comfort with me about a year ago and is now threatening to tell my fiance if I don’t call off the wedding.

He actually tried to feel me up and while I didn’t scream for help I didn’t give consent.

I never told my man because I thought it would cause problems with him and his friend.

I know he will tell him that it was my fault and that I started it, but that is just an outright lie.

Please help me. I love my man and have never even considered anything with another man. What do I do?

AGONY AUNT

I can see why you didn’t tell your fiance in the first instance. Going down the he/she said road is difficult under normal circumstances but breaking through the old “mates” code of solidarity is often almost impossible. Some guys don’t seem to be able to be just mates, they behave more like a jealous mistress or jilted lover. 

I want you to write down exactly what happened and when, put this in an envelope and put it away. Then I want you to bluff this guy out. I actually don’t think he will talk to your guy, he has way too much to lose. I also want you to record on your phone any conversation he may have with you on this topic including any further threats.

If he really is pathetic enough to follow through you will not be under as much pressure to defend yourself, what happened will at least be on paper and with a little luck recorded as well. It is up to you if at some future date you tell your guy. 

I hope this weasel is reading today because I would like him to know what a low life he is. Most decent people have no time for blackmailing bullies but even less for those who try to poach their mate’s girl. Go get some self respect, common decency and your own woman!

BOYS CLUB

Pays to be honest up front.