Heartbroken ex asks whether to try and win woman back | Agony Aunt

I was pretty confident in my decision, and while she appeared incredibly upset, she agreed to us breaking up.  

Now, at age 30, and after dating numerous other women, I think this breakup was a mistake. She, in hindsight, made me much happier than any other partner has since or before.  

I guess I just didn’t realise a good thing when I had it. 

We don’t really speak much anymore, but I want to make contact to see if we could rekindle what we had. 

I’m hopeful I could persuade her that I made a mistake and she was right all along. Do you think this is a good idea?

YOU say that you don’t speak MUCH anymore so I assume that means that you do have some contact and therefore know whether she has a current relationship?

Honestly we all make mistakes. 

Maybe five years ago it was not a mistake. 

Maybe it was the right thing to do for both of you. 

Who knows? What can it hurt to revisit the issue. 

I wouldn’t get my hopes up and generally I do not believe in “reheating the soufflé”, so to speak, but as the Boys say, “nothing ventured nothing gained” either.  

I would be realistic about my chances though. 

Do not be heartbroken if she decides to decline your offer.

Make sure before you do bring this up with her that you are very, very sure that this is what you want and not just a reaction to being 30 years old and feeling the old clock ticking coupled with the fact that you appear to have had a string of unsuccessful relationships.

I personally cannot see the harm in at least talking to the lady.

Good luck my friend.

GEEZ m​ate, six years is a long time. Nothing ventured nothing gained we guess.