If I was not dating my boyfriend, then I would have absolutely no contact with this guy. He is just a sleazy smart ass.

I used to be able to list all the stupid and nasty things this man has done but  I gave up. He is just a waste of space and I often wonder why my boyfriend continues with a friendship that is just so mismatched.

My boyfriend believes I should repair my relationship with this man, and I am having a hard time doing this. I am civil towards him, but that is all. There  is nothing to repair, I simply cannot abide him.

This man has apologised for some of his mistakes but he hasn't proved he wants a friendship or deserves my friendship and in all honesty, the less I have to do with him the better.

My boyfriend’s request is that I make amends, and I am finding this very difficult. Any suggestions?

I actually laughed when I read your letter. Haven't we all been here?  There are always one or two people in your partners friendship bucket that you really struggle liking.

This is how I reconciled it ...

If the slight or misbehaviour was towards or against me or my partner or our relationship then all bets are off.

I will not and do not condone disloyalty.

I actually had a so-called friend of a partner of mine stabbing me in the back to him, verbally and via text, then confronting me out socially one night and telling me that she felt that he should have had better taste than to be with me.

She continued her sly underhand behaviour, sending texts to him. She was just another "little" person in the world and not worth the worry.

If it is simply a case of behaviour that I don't like then I get over it.  You don't have to marry this guy or indeed spend much time with him, so for your boyfriend's sake can you not tolerate and smile through it?

We cannot always control the behaviour of our friends. I am sure you have girlfriends that he isn't particularly fond of either. Just let it go.  Remember who he goes home with and to.

Merry Christmas to you and yours.

Damed if you do and damned if you don't! Only you can decide this one. SWAT analysis would be good.