I was quite disturbed to read your response to a letter writer who asked your advice on advising "unsuspecting" spouses of their other halves apparent infidelity.
I have always viewed you as a woman who believed in the sisterhood. It appeared from your response that you were prepared to shoot the messenger instead of the perpetrator.
As a person who has been humiliated by the quite public cheating of my now ex-husband, I feel very strongly about your response.
I believe we should always take the higher moral ground and ensure those that cheat are made accountable.
You are correct that I am a supportive and encouraging of sisterhood, but there is always a line - a line we cross when we use this as an excuse for behaviour that does not necessarily fit within those beliefs and guidelines.
In the case you refer to, the woman who wrote did not even know the people she believed to be carrying on an illicit relationship.
She openly admits to only knowing of them through her husband.
She is not protecting or looking out for a friend, she wants to take these people to task via a rather sneaky, underhand method.
That is not what sisterhood is all about.
We maintain our previous position on this. It is none of the woman's business.