He seems happy enough, work is secure and we have had no issue in our marriage. I am at a loss as to why the change in his habits. When I mention that he seems to be drinking a lot, he gets angry and defensive, telling me to mind my own business as he is not hurting me.

At first, I thought I was imagining things but his sister mentioned that she had noticed the changes and is quite concerned. I'm unsure how to proceed as discussing the issue seems to be taboo.

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AGONY AUNT

You seem clear that you cannot isolate any reason for your husband to have 'taken to the drink', but it may well be something much more personal to him and something you may be unaware of.

Men, in general, are less able or willing to talk about issues of concern and my guess is that is why when you challenge him, he reacts unkindly. He doesn't know how to talk about whatever is worrying him. I suggest a conciliatory approach where your concern is greater than your angst. Ensure he understands he can talk to you and that you are worried for him. Another option is for a close family member to talk to him. If none of these work, I guess you are going to have to wait him out. Eventually, he will communicate.

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Obviously something is amiss. Maybe try a softer approach.