For 20 years Nola Baker has lent a listening ear to the families, friends and loved ones left behind after suicide, but today she will be taking a step back.
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Mrs Baker was a founding member of Wagga's Support After Suicide Group, which has disbanded and now entrusted Wellways with carrying on the legacy.
She lost her own son to suicide 22 years ago, which is what spurred her to help start the support group in the year 2000.
Back then it was the only support group of its kind in the entire region, and it drew people in from as far afield as Albury, Tumbarumba, Tumut, Tarcutta and beyond.
"Our little support group has certainly touched a lot of people from around the district," Mrs Baker said.
"We are a place where people could come and share their stories, feel safe, and be there for one another."
She says suicide is still an ever-pressing problem within the community 20 years later, but she is nevertheless encouraged to see attitudes change and more people reaching out for help.
"In the intervening years I've found people are much more comfortable with talking through these issues with their doctor, which is a good place to start," Mrs Baker said. "There certainly has been more education and more understanding."
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The group met every month at the house of Sandra Schulz, who first joined the group after losing her only son to suicide in 2006.
Mrs Schulz said things had never really gotten easier since then, but said she still wanted to do her bit to help others going through similar hardships.
She said it was painful at times to hear so many stories of loss and grief, but she said the feeling of helping out others in the same boat made it all worth it.
"As time goes on it's very cathartic to work with people and help them navigate the aftermath, because it can be quite complex," Mrs Schulz said. "You've always got a lot of relationship issues, a lot of guilt, a lot of questions you need to live with knowing they're not going to be answered."
Even if the support group is no more, Mrs Schulz said that she and Mrs Baker would always be open to a "cuppa and a chat" with anybody going through loss.
They will also be receiving referrals through Wellways, which will be running their own suicide support service in their absence.
The support service will be offering emotional support, material aid, and guidance on how to speak with children or loved ones about their loss.
If you or anyone you know is suffering suicidal thoughts you can call Wellways on 1300 111 400, Lifeline on 13 11 14, or headspace on 6923 3170.