Growing up in regional Australia identifying as queer can be hard, particularly when your sexuality is not something many people understand.
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Zoe Hadler, 24, proudly identifies as asexual and has spent the past three years writing a play about her experiences as a thesis for her masters.
According to Australian Asexuals, asexuality is a sexual orientation defined by a lack of sexual attraction to any person of any gender.
"This play is about an asexual university student called Lizzie, and it follows her nonlinear story as she thinks back on her final year of university and how her friends found out about her sexuality and how that affected her as she went along," Ms Hadler said.
"She also along the way falls in love, gets betrayed and it also delves into intricacies of the asexual experience and how it affects the wider asexual community, as well as this one girl as she tries to find who she is.
"A lot of it is based on my personal experiences as an asexual woman, and when I finished my degree at university, I decided to take this idea and these personal experiences and turn them into apply for my master's degree."
Born and raised in Wagga, Ms Hadler said coming to terms with her sexuality was confusing at first.
"For me, it manifested in a very confused sense of self in the way I defined myself, especially going into acting as a profession," she said.
"That is a field that hinges entirely on how you look and how your body looks and how you act, and for a lot of women in the acting profession, it's about being perceived as beautiful and sexy, and as an asexual, that's not on my radar.
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"So it was a bizarre dichotomy in my head about myself."
Ms Hadler said when people think about the "queer community", they generally mean or refer to lesbian or gay people.
She added that while this means asexuals can face less overt discrimination, there is an underlying wave of misunderstanding.
"There's a lot of very insidious ways that being asexual is treated as wrong by the community and by the world," she said.
"Asexuality has only been considered legitimate sexuality for the past 15 or 20 years. Up until then, it was considered a mental disorder."
Ms Hadler said sex is considered a fundamental human experience.
"So you get a lot of confusion, you get a lot of misunderstandings, you get a lot of people who just don't quite get it, and that seems like a small issue, but it really can build up over time and affects your psyche in a very negative way," she said.
"People think that because you don't crave sex then clearly you don't desire any human interaction, or you don't want any emotion, and that's not it at all.
"We just need to educate people."
Ms Hadler proudly marched in Wagga's first-ever Mardi Gras earlier in the year.
"It was a huge deal for me, seeing people be there to support the community at large in Wagga," she said.
Ms Hadler's play, Messages: An Asexual's Guide to Love and Group Chats, opened on Wednesday night after month's of preparation.
"It's been positive," she said.
"You get used to your writing, and you get used to what it says, so being able to hear other people say these words and bring new inflections to them, or bring whole new interpretations to them has been interesting.
"I would love it if as many people as possible came to see it."
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