Dear Agony Aunt,
I am in a bit of a mess and would like your advice. I love two guys.
One is my ex-boyfriend who wants to come back to me, the other is my current boyfriend.
Both are lovely guys.
I know you will tell me it is not possible to love two men, but I do.
I feel more spiritually attached to my ex, but I think my current guy will treat me better.
I am unable to make a decision.
I can see the positives and negatives in both relationships.
My current man makes me very happy but can be a bit boring, while my ex really brings a spark to my life, but I know it’s not sustainable for a long future.
Do you have any thoughts or advice?
I am really torn over which way to go – do I follow my heart or my head?
How do I know what is the right decision?
YES, you are quite correct, I am going to tell you that I do not believe you love both men.
I think you have history with your ex, and this makes it a little confusing for you.
As I always advise, try to remember the reasons he is your “ex”.
There you will probably find the reason that you should think very carefully about re-uniting with him.
Maybe your ex wants to be back with you because you are with another guy?
My other thought is that maybe you should be alone for a time.
It doesn’t seem very fair to your current guy that you are even considering throwing him over for your ex.
Perhaps your feelings for this guy do not run deep enough.
You have a lot of thinking to do.
Make sure you factor other people’s feelings into your deliberations.
FLICK a coin sweetheart.
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