My husband and I have been together for about 10 years - eight married the rest courting.

I thought we were doing OK but my world has been turned upside down.

This week, he told me that he would like our marriage to be open or at least that we start joining in swingers’ sessions.

I thought our romantic life was travelling along rather well considering the length of time we have been together.

Apart from the obvious thing of sharing my man with anybody else in such an intimate way, I am heartbroken that I am obviously not enough for him.

I have given up a decade of my life, devoted to him and our relationship.

I really didn’t see this coming.

He actually favours an open relationship over swinging but gave me the options.

The third is that he is leaving me.

I can't do either, what am I going to do?

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AGONY AUNT

I STILL have my mouth open aghast at what possesses people to behave in such a manner.

I’m going to make this quick and probably brutal but this guy is not the guy for you.

He is self-centred, selfish, incredibly insensitive and basically just a douchebag.

Beat him to the punch and run rabbit, run!

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BOYS CLUB

WELL, it looks like it’s over rover!

Time to hit the road and get on with life.

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