Agony Aunt answers your questions

Dear Aunty,

This is a very serious problem and I hope you can help me out. I have been with my man for almost five years.

We moved in together a little over three years ago. I have just given birth to our first child, a cute little boy.

Not sure how to say this, but, the father of my baby is not my partner.​

There is no doubt in my mind, the dates and resemblance are way too much for it to be my mind playing tricks.

I am not one to cheat or play around but my guy and I went through a rough patch and I was out one night and one thing lead to another.

The fling lasted about a month. I obviously conceived in this period. Nobody but nobody else suspects. Should I tell my guy or tough it out?


WOW, what a mess you have made of this. Relationships have ups and downs, that’s life.

“Doing the dance” with another is just not how we deal with those ups and downs. You ask me what I think you should do? I actually don’t know.

Only you know the complexities of your relationship.

Only you know whether the truth will help or hinder and only you can decide what road to take.

In this case maybe a bit of personal counselling would be of great benefit. It would allow you to get perspective before you make what is and should be quite a major decision. Go do it before this problem eats you up.


DISHONEST through and through. What do you think you should do?

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