Dear Agony Aunt,
How do I make my daughter see that her boyfriend is obviously cheating?
She blindly trusts him. The guy’s never around, I’ve never known a person to “work” as much as he does.
Whether it’s Christmas Day or Easter Sunday. He’s always disappearing for days on end, and even when he’s with her he’s often in the garden on his phone .
He never lets that phone out of his sight and if he’s not outside talking on it he is texting furiously. It’s a no brainer, really.
He always seems to be out but not with her, too. I keep trying to make her see but she just gets upset with me. How can I help her?
AGONY AUNT
Let’s not just assume that she doesn’t know. Usually we do but we hope that if we stick it out the guy will get his act together and start behaving. Sadly, we are also usually wrong. A person that cheats more than likely will continue to cheat. You know the ‘leopard with spots’ adage? The only thing that can be done is to remove yourself from the situation.
I think you have to let your daughter sort this out herself. When and if she is ready to confront the issues, just make sure you are there for her. It is heartbreaking enough for her to be in this situation but can only be made worse by you drawing her attention to it all the time.
She knows … she is choosing how to deal with this. Respect her feelings and choices that is how you can help her.
BOYS CLUB
Boys will only do what they are allowed to get away with. Remember – boys will be boys!!
- Send your questions to aunt.agony@outlook.com
- If you need help call beyondblue on 1300 224 636
