She's just not that into you: Agony Aunt

I HAVE noticed over the last couple of months that my girlfriend has been more and more distant.

I’m pretty sure or if I am I don’t know that I’m doing anything different.

She has said she’s fine, but I can feel that things have changed.

It is like she is slowly withdrawing from me.

She less and less communicates beyond the basics of conversation and at times where in the past she would have taken the bait and given me a razz, she just shrugs and wanders off.

Any advice?

IT WOULD seem that your relationship with this lady may have run its course.

Having said that, relationships do have their cycles of up and down so that is also a consideration.

For myself, when a relationship is either no longer working as in dysfunctional, or just no longer be sustained emotionally and/or physically then withdrawing is a natural reaction.

Sometimes it is not about leaving but about readjusting ones expectations or desires.  

Sometimes it can be about the demise of the relationship.

I know that you have said that you have asked her but maybe you probe a little further and indeed see if leaving is what is on her mind.

Better to know for sure than to be left guessing.

It’s easy really … “I’ve noticed that you seem unhappy and it upsets me to see you like that. What can I do to help?”

Try it.

Good luck.

MATE, she is obviously no longer into you.