Agony Aunt answers your questions, July 11, 2015

I have just found out that my fiancé has been having an affair, if you call it that when you are not yet married, with an ex girlfriend.

He doesn’t know that I have found out yet and I really don’t know how to handle it all.

I feel so unloved and I am obviously not enough to keep him satisfied or happy.

There really were no signs that anything was wrong. We get on really well and our sex life has always, I thought, been fantastic.

This ex of his has always been hanging about in the background and I often wondered why she always seemed to be popping up at activities we were at.  

Now I guess I know.

We are supposed to be getting married in 11 months.  Now what do I do?

I am so ashamed of having failed.

I am feeling so sorry for you at the moment. 

My dear lady, you already know the answer. 

Get away from this man that does not deserve your heart and/or your tears. 

If he is cheating on you before you marry, what would possibly change after? 

He has been disloyal and disrespectful and when you love somebody, truly love somebody, cheating in any way shape or form is not what you do.

Do not feel ashamed. It is these two worthless people who have caused your pain that should feel ashamed and disgusted in themselves and their behaviour.

You know what to do. Call off the wedding, tell him why and take some time to mend your heart and soul before you find the man that truly deserves you.

In my thoughts and heart,

 – Agony Aunt

This guy is a piece of #@!$ and his ‘ex’ is probably even worse.  

Cut your losses and move on.