Agony Aunt answers your questions, May 2, 2015

Please help with your best advice.

My husband is embarrassing me with his constant attention and comments to and about young teenage girls.

He is now 67 and his comments are crude, loud and quite public. 

I have told him I find his behaviour to be disgusting but it seems to fall on deaf ears.

Any advice?

I personally have no time for this sort of behaviour.

Grubby just grubby.

Only two options though I feel.

Tell him straight down the line that you find his behaviour not only disgusting but that you will not be party to it anymore. 

In this day and age we all expect a little better.

The other option is simple. Walk away every time he behaves in this manner, and that doesn’t matter where you are or who else you may be with.

Is there not somebody he respects that may have a word in his ear? 

How about one of your kids if you have any?  

Surely one his male friends has noticed his disrespectful attitude to young women?

Maybe he has a sister or brother.  I guess you could try making inappropriate comments about young lads in his hearing so that he understands how dirty he sounds.

You really shouldn't have to do this I do understand but sometimes the means to achieve the end is not necessarily all that palatable. 

If you have a daughter or granddaughter you might also remind him of how he would feel if an older male was making similar comments about or to them.

I agree with you, it must be very embarrassing and quite demeaning to you as his partner.

He might show you and all females a little more respect.

To your husband if he is reading … listen up and grow up!

Now come on, boys will be boys even when they are grown up.  Just ignore him.