I’m in my late 30s, divorced, and have been trying online dating. I’ve met some great men and have seen  a couple of them regularly.

I’ve been upfront about not wanting to be exclusive at the moment. Most guys so far have seemed okay with that.

The issue I am facing now is that a lot of the guys on these online sites that I am attracted to are married men looking to cheat on their wives or partners.  

A part of me is drawn to the idea of being the other woman –  the idea of having a bit of  fun and pleasure while the wife sits at home. I find these feelings disturbing.

I thought I was better than that. I don’t know where these feelings are coming from,  or how to make it stop. Do you have any help to give me?

AGONY AUNT

YOU need to see a therapist/counsellor. I cannot tell you why you have these ideas and the why is of little consequence in the big picture at this point in time.

The important thing right this instance is to stop before you destroy other innocent people and possibly your own self esteem.

Get off the online dating scene till you sort yourself out and seek help immediately.

BOYS CLUB

AND they reckon guys are bad? Seems like you girls are no better.