I AM a 22 years old and have been in a  relationship with a guy for two years. Last year we were apart for three months when I had to go away for family stuff. I was very lonely and I had a drunken one-night stand. I now feel so guilty.

I never told my boyfriend about my infidelity. I hate that I did something that would hurt him so much. I want to be with this man for the rest of my life, but I also accept that it would be entirely my fault if I told him and he left. What do you think I should do?

AGONY AUNT: Firstly, if drinking is your excuse for cheating on your mate it might be a good idea to give it up. There are no excuses for cheating. They are ill-advised choices we make hoping we will never get caught.

Invariably we do. How would you feel if your boyfriend had done this to you? The bigger question you need to ask yourself however is not whether to confess or not, but whether you are really ready for a mature relationship. Think long and hard, you have much to decide.

BOYS’ CLUB: Time to take a long hard look in your mirror!