My wife is causing me great grief. It doesn’t matter what I do to please her she still complains I do not do enough.

I work eight hours a day and Saturday mornings, I do all the yard work, do the dishes after the evening meals, walk the dogs, wash and clean both our cars, and help with the grocery shop each week.

I always bring her coffee and toast on Sunday mornings and once a month I cook an evening dinner for us. Every month I also buy her a bunch of fresh flowers with a card.

She doesn't work, we have a 10-year-old son. She has free reign with money and goes out every week for drinks or coffee.

She has always complained that I do not do enough but lately it seems like even me breathing is cause for her irritation. I have tried talking to her about the issue and how she makes me feel but she goes into a tirade of how ungrateful and stupid I am.

I cannot continue much longer. Surely I am doing if not as much then more than the average husband?

Most women I know would give their eye teeth to have a guy in their lives who gives and does so much.

What the hell is wrong with this woman? More importantly, what is wrong with you that you allow this behaviour?

Unfortunately to a greater degree we are the people to blame. We have enabled these  people to control our lives and basically denigrate our existence and contributions.

You already know the answer to your question. You have to tell her in no uncertain terms that you can and will no longer tolerate her behaviour.

Be the man that I believe you are and take some control back. Be strong, decisive but kind, and set a new path.

Seriously mate, enough is surely enough.