Agony Aunt
Julie Elphick
I HAVE noticed a number of people writing to you about online dating sites and thought I would ask my question of you.
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Is online dating my only option? I’m 58 and newly divorced.
I would really like to meet a new partner, but the thought of 'selling' or 'exposing' myself on a website frightens the life out of me.
I believe I am reasonably good company but I think I would feel so self-conscious on a first date.
Yet if I don’t go down this path, how am I going to find a new partner?
AGONY AUNT
IT MUST be the season for starting new relationships. Yes the online dating thing has been a hot topic lately in my columns.
I have mentioned before that whilst it isn’t for me, a number of my friends and other people I know have managed to snare the man or woman of their dreams on these sites.
Some in fact have gone on to have wonderful marriages.
I do however believe that if you are “on the market” there are many quite eligible men out there who do not use these sites.
I do suggest you brush up your self confidence though as you seem a little down on yourself.
This will come across in your communication and only encourage the wrong sort of man.
Just remember that expectations are the rule of this game. Don’t set yours that high that your desire for a partner is overridden by a lack of reality.
This could result in nobody being good enough for you. Decide in your heart what you really want from a partner and go for it!
Life has a lot of unexpected turns and I guess we never expect to be back on the dating seen at 58. Look at this another way … what a great opportunity to meet a nice man to share the rest of your life with.
Good luck.
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