AGONY AUNT
DEAR Agony Aunt,
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I know you will probably tell me that I have bought this on myself but I’m going to take the chance.
I have three kids, well adults now I guess, all in their early twenties.
None of them have left home and all of them just sit around and wait for me to do everything.
I have two boys and one girl. I’ve noticed lately that the boys are now treating their sister like she is their slave and she is falling in line. Yesterday I saw one of the boys sitting at the computer and almost telling her to fetch him a glass of water. The fridge is like 20 metres away. She obediently jumped up to get it for him.
I’m worried I have set my daughter up for a life similar to mine - one of servitude. Is it too late? Thank you.
Agony Aunt
WELL, yes, I guess you have brought this upon yourself but we all do things we wish we hadn’t.
The important thing is that you recognise the issue and can see the current and future effect this will have on your daughter.
Your sons will suffer too. Most intelligent women these days will not tolerate such arrogance in a man. Their relationships may well be pretty messed up, you may well get stuck with them.
Easily fixed – long overdue talk with your daughter on how things SHOULD be.
Another long talk with the sons – on how things WILL be. (Might be worth including you husband here.)
And more importantly, LEAD by example. Stop running around after those who have two legs and a heartbeat.
This will take patience on your part; grit your teeth and stick to the plan. And remember the changes won’t happen overnight. Could be a long haul.
Don’t be too tough on yourself - as mothers we often make mistakes based on good intentions.
Good luck.
BOYS CLUB
AND what’s wrong with that? Just joking ladies, before you send out the lynch mob!
Reverse it immediately, those days are gone - unfortunately!
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