My 22-year-old son will not accept my new partner.

His father and I were married for 24 years, most of which, in hindsight, were pretty damn good but after a year of upheaval I had an affair with an ex boyfriend.

My husband found out and instigated proceedings.

I now live with the ex-boyfriend or my new partner.

We have been together for about eight months.

I do still love my husband but such is life.

My new partner does leave a little to be desired on many fronts but what is … is!

I think things would be better if my son would make some effort.

Interested in your advice.

WOW. You set a new standard for dumb!

Your son has had the safety and surety of 22 years of his mother and father having a seemingly normal and happy marriage.

Things go through a bit of a rough patch and off you go looking for a short term fix.

Now you want your son to just go along with it?  

Really?

And even more interesting are your comments about your boyfriend … he’s not all that flash huh?

Think you might have made a mistake?

My advice to you is to grow up and have a look at what you have done, what you really want and if there is a way to achieve that.

Don’t be surprised if you keep on this path if your son doesn’t make peace with you. 

Note to all those still dabbling with exes – see what can happen!

SHALLOW some?