Over the last 12 months my guy and I have been saving for our holiday of a lifetime.

We are booked to leave this summer, in early January.

Recently things haven’t been so good and we decided to split up.

Both of us still want to go on the holiday and together. 

I'm not sure  if I can cope being away with someone I’ve not been getting on with and no longer carry on a relationship with. 

It could be confusing if we feel like we are a couple again when we’re away but there’s no future when we are back?

How do I resolve this.

IT DOESN’T sound like you both want to go on this holiday together at all to me.  

You obviously have doubts which I assume you haven't shared with your ex?

Does this mean that he probably has doubts too but hasn’t shared them with you?

Have you always had difficulty communicating openly or is this only since the breakup?

The resolution is simple.

Talk it out.

Discuss whether you believe you can both travel and holiday together and what the parameters are.

Maybe it will be the rekindling of your relationship or the beginning of a new friendship.

Having said that I am sure you know that I don’t believe that ex lovers/spouses etc can ever be just friends, and I certainly don’t believe in trying to successfully heat the soufflé … if you know what I mean.

But what the heck, give it a go!

Maybe you can prove me wrong.

COULD still be the holiday of a lifetime.

Just open your mind and give it a go.