I HAVE left my husband of eight years and whilst I know in my head that his behaviour leaves me with no choice, my heart is having trouble.

He is a seriously damaged man with issues that I can no longer abide or try to ignore.

He has been treating me poorly really for a number of years but his behaviour of late has been publicly humiliating.

He has always thought himself better than me and is at pains to remind me of this at every opportunity. 

For edification - he isn't, he just thinks he is.

Whilst his comments used to be in private, he has now taken to insulting me in public settings.

Whilst I have been told his actions are nothing more than that of a man with serious esteem issues, that certainly doesn't help me cope.

My real problem is that I do love him.

I promised to love in good and bad, and keep waiting for the good to reappear. 

HELP!

SO SAD! Some people, women and men, seriously just get off by being nasty.

You know what, we all have some level of esteem insecurity, we don’t all demean our partners/spouses or for that matter other people in general.

I have always considered people that trivialise and degrade others, without warrant,  in some warped way think that they then become superior, more successful, better.

MEDIA ALERT ladies and gents, you are not, you are simply cowards and bullies!  

Successful people stand on their own merit not on the backs of those they have cowed.

I do not know what to advise you.

I sincerely understand your pain and I understand your hope that all will return to the way it was.

Is hope enough?

Maybe the Boys are right, I just don’t know. 

I’m sorry that I can’t fix this for you.  

WE RECKON you give him a bit of his own medicine. An eye for an eye, eh?