Agony Aunt
Dear Agony Aunt,
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I HAVE been dating a friend of a friend of mine, and after what seemed to be a great start, things are not quite so great anymore.
It is always me initiating communication, or at least 99 per cent of the time anyway.
I actually cannot remember when she ever called or texted me at all.
I have no issue with playing the traditional “male” role and pursuing/courting her, but I don’t feel comfortable being the ONLY one who makes any effort.
I ended the last several calls and dates with a “give me a call tomorrow or let me know how your day went” .
She made no comment after either of my remarks but made no contact either and it is now nearly a week later.
I would like to know what’s going on.
Part of me wonders if I should just move on until she’s ready to talk to me, if ever. What do you think?
AGONY AUNT says
WELL if she has never called or texted you that amounts to you making the running 100 per cent of the time.
Why? Sounds a bit masochistic to me.
Why keep chasing something or someone who obviously does not want your attentions?
Some would say she is maybe too polite to refuse you when you make contact, others may say she is just using you but with no interest herself.
One thing is clear - she has no great interest in continuing or furthering her relationship with you.
The reason is irrelevant.
I guess you have two options.
Either just do not contact her again or contact her once more to ask her directly if she actually wants a relationship with you.
Not sure which one I would recommend but for me it would probably be the former.
I’m sure there are some lovely ladies out there who would be happy to communicate with you. Might be time to try it out.
BOYS CLUB says
TIS a no brainer really mate.
She is definitely not into you.
Move on, there’s heaps of willing fish in the sea.