Dear Agony Aunt,
I LIVE with what many would call an unusual but sweet man.
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We have been together for about four years.
My family does not like him one little bit but they really don’t understand him the way I do.
He has a temper, as in he seems to be quite angry and very quickly over seemingly trivial issues.
He has never hit me.
He never involves himself in my family’s parties or gatherings.
He either stays at home or just sits in the car, reads books, and listens to music.
My family now mostly ignores him but they really are encouraging me to move out or back home.
I am caught in the middle.
I don’t want to give up my family, but I love him.
How can I make this work for everybody?
Agony Aunt says
THE “they really don’t understand him the way I do” comment worries me.
Sounds like an excuse to me.
Based on what you have said I am unsure what there is to misunderstand.
The guy is rude and selfish and seems to have little to no regard to the terrible and quite untenable position he is putting you in.
This shows a distinct lack of care for you and your needs in life.
Not to mention the total disrespect he shows your family.
This guy is basically controlling you without ever having to mutter a word of dissent.
I find it really strange that he sits in the car whilst you are inside with your family.
Really?
What sort of grown up behaves like that?
You don’t mention how he behaves with your friends so I can only assume he is the same.
Do you really want to spend the rest of your days walking this barb wire fence?
I know you say you love him but I am struggling to understand how or why.
The Boys are once again correct.
It is time for you to find a backbone and end the ridiculous behaviour your partner displays.
You are the only one who can change this situation.
Time to make a decision.
You DO have the control.
Use it.
Boys club says
SOUNDS like a bit of goose to us.
You have some choices to make.
“Woman up” and make them.
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