I believe I am happily married, and I have a beautiful baby. My husband is particularly loving and very supportive of my career.
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Two years ago I started having a great friendship with a co-worker who works with in my department. We could talk about anything for hours and shared the dealings of the ever-changing politics of our company.
I certainly did not expect it to happen, but - and I am sure you can guess this -we fell in love.
We told each other we loved one another deeply and it was true.
I feel extremely guilty toward my family and his family. He is also married and has children. We both knew our relationship shouldn't develop, and I hated lying to my husband whenever I left our house to take my lover’s calls.
A year ago I quit my job mainly because I knew for this to end we had to stop seeing each other every day.
However, we continued seeing each other over lunch and coffee, and we continued calling each other whenever we were alone. A month ago we had a fight, and we have not contacted each other since.
I know it is, perhaps, best for us to end this silently, yet I miss him very much.
I think I still love him and want to know why he hasn't called.
Should I contact him to talk and get closure to the relationship? Without this closure I feel I am still hoping we could go back to way things were, even though I know that is not right.
Sometimes I do wonder about the intellectual capacity of some of the people who write to me.
You tell me you left your job because you knew this affair must end but then when it does end, you want to strike a match to it and get it going all over again.
Which part of being happily married am I not getting? Happily married people do not have affairs! Do you understand that? Happily married people DO NOT CHEAT.
If you need somebody to "talk to about anything for hours", get a parrot or budgie.
It seems at least this other guy has the sense to let it go. Will you only be happy when it all blows up and kids and spouses are dragged into messy divorces?
Grow up and wake up. I have no sympathy for you.
Way too much stuff happening here for us boys. Keep moving away and do not pick up that phone. We feel sorry for your old man.
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